How to Remove the Worry About Your Child’s Future

by Julie Kleinhans on October 31, 2014

As a parent, it’s extremely easy to worry about your child’s future. You want the very best for them. As they are getting older, you may find yourself becoming more concerned about what their future will look like and if they will become a confident, happy, productive adult.

First I’d like to ask you two important questions:

  1. Do you want your child to engage in a future that they are passionate about?
  2. Are you open to your child exploring any passion that they have?

I ask these questions because many parents have pre-determined ideas about what their children should do with their life or what they think their child would succeed in. In order for your child to truly find their way, they will need your support to travel any path.

I’ll give you an example. When I was a teacher, I remember having a quiet boy named Jordan in class. He didn’t like school very much because he didn’t feel that he was a good student. One thing he was passionate about was video games. He loved all aspects of the video-gaming world.

When I spoke to Jordan about all of the possibilities of having a career in the video gaming industry, his entire perspective about his future changed. A shift in his perspective allowed him to get excited about the possibilities of himself as an expert in video gaming, making lots of money designing cool games. The thought that he was talented at something that can be applied to his future career helped him to feel much more confident about his abilities.

You can nurture this confidence and excitement with your own children. Here are three things you can do right now to inspire your children and remove your own worry.

  1. Stop Comparing Your Child to Other Children in a Way that Puts Them Down

    It is very hurtful to a child when they are compared to other children in a way that puts them down.

    Instead, use comparison in a way that lifts everyone up by showing your child the value that everyone contributes. For example: “Sam is great at math and doing well in his math classes. Becky, you may be struggling with math right now, but that’s okay. You will eventually learn what you need to know. You are doing so well in your English class. We are proud of you and Sam exactly as you are.”

    It is important to boost confidence in every child so they can thrive.

  2. Help Your Child Focus on What They Enjoy Doing

    Every person is talented in so many things. Including you – Mom or Dad! Help your child to focus and nurture what they do enjoy doing and get creative with them to think outside the box.

    You may want to make a list with your children of the things you each really enjoy doing. This could be a fun family activity for everyone to write their lists together and then participate in those activities on the list.

    Get ready to think in and outside the box. For instance, things like painting and playing catch may be on the list. Some other things people enjoy doing but don’t always think of is making lists, planning, cooking, reading, etc. Look at everything each of your enjoy doing and help each other with your “Enjoyment List”. You each may forget things you enjoy doing and reminding each other makes this an extra special family experience. You may be surprised what your children notice about you and they may be surprised about what you notice with them.

    Remember that so many things you enjoy can be turned into careers. A person that enjoys painting may become an artist, an art curator, own a gallery, etc. Your child may like to play catch now and in the future could do it professionally as a player, a coach, a manager, a sports news person, etc. Someone that enjoys making lists and planning may become a great project manager, travel agent or entrepreneur. Cooking is a great skill that can be applied to restaurants, cooking shows, books and more. Those that enjoy reading may become authors themselves, editors, proofreaders, book store owners or work in book publishing.

    There are a myriad of opportunities for any and all passions that you and your children have!

  3. Find Your Child a Mentor in the Passion That They Have 

    If your child is interested in a particular career, help them find an adult in that field to have a conversation with. I recommend having a conversation with this person first to be sure you are okay with your child learning from them. Then set up a phone call or an in-person meeting for your child.

    Your child can talk to this person about how they got to where they are today and some of the obstacles they overcame to succeed. Have your child make a list of everything they’d like to know and see about this career choice, so they can make the most out of their experience. Having a tour of the work facilities of this career would also be helpful so your child can envision if this is a place for them.


It’s important for children to explore their passions without judgment. Allowing them to find their way will most certainly guarantee their success.

© 2014 Julie Kleinhans, Mind Focus Generation

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Now that the new school year is well under way, parents and students are feeling the usual pressure of staying on top of school responsibilities, particularly homework.

Here in the United States, most schools have implemented the Common Core Standards, which according to most parents, teachers and students that I have heard from, feel it is placing way too much pressure on everyone involved.

Students are expected to do too much academic work with little time left for physical and leisure activity, which we all know is not only important, but crucial for the physical, mental and emotional development for children of all ages.

But what I’m hearing from parents is a sense of frustration and even helplessness. Their kids are coming home after a long day at school, only to have to sit and focus on homework for another hour or even two!

I can’t speak for everyone, but I know after a long day of work, the last thing I want to do is gear up for more work in the evening…but that is what we are expecting of our youth these days.

When speaking with parents, I’ve found that many feel and believe they have no control over this issue. In fact, they believe their children HAVE TO do as the schools say. To me, that is not freedom, that is disempowerment!

I’d like to take some time to share with you some basic tips for helping you to navigate this overwhelm that you and your kids may be feeling when it comes to school responsibilities and the struggle of homework.

Let’s look at a few things. When it comes to sitting down and doing homework, are your kids:

  • Fighting you and resisting your attempts to have them get it done
  • Crying, stressed and overwhelmed when they get home
  • Burnt out when it comes time to do more work in the late afternoon or evening
  • Being turned off when it comes to learning and school, even though you know they are natural learners
  • Bored with focusing on academics for the majority of the day
  • Acting out in school
  • Lying about the amount of homework they have to do
  • Finding it difficult to focus at the end of the day

If any of these ring true for you and your children, perhaps it’s time rethink homework.

When it comes to our kids, their negative behavior is an indication of needs not being met. As adults, parents and teachers alike, it is our responsibility to make sure the needs of every child is being met so they can learn and grow at a pace that is right for them.

Instead we force a one-size-fits-all approach to education and behavior. There is a belief that when it comes to homework, kids just need to do it.

Here are a couple questions to ask yourself:

    1. What is the end result I am hoping for my child(ren) to achieve?
      Most likely the answer is happiness, confidence, success, intelligence and well-being.
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    3. Is homework overwhelm in my children (and myself) bringing my children closer or further away from being happy, confident, successful and well-rounded?
      We all know that stress causes imbalance in the physical, mental and emotional body. So why are we insisting that our kids complete their homework at the cost of their overall well-being?

So what are your options?

    1. Remember that you always get to choose. Stand in your power of choice and remember that you have the right to say ‘this is too much for my kid’. Just because a school or teacher is requiring a certain amount of homework to be done, does not mean you and your family need to comply. Again come back to what is most important for your child and family. 
       
      You may need to consult a doctor and talk about the stress related issues that are caused by too much homework and academics. The right doctor can inform your school that your child can only perform a certain amount of after-school work. The school cannot legally penalize your child for not doing this work when it comes to his or her health.
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    3. Ban together with other parents. More than likely you are not the only family dealing with this difficulty. This is what Parent Teacher Associations are for. If a number of parents stand up and say ‘enough is enough’ the school will likely make changes. Schools need to be listening to parents and kids, not legislatures, when it comes to the educational needs of children
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    5. Connect back to your spiritual center (Source, Spirit, God, Goddess, the Universe or however you prefer to view this connection). Center yourself in order to make clear, informed choices for you and your family. Ask Spirit to guide you in making the best choices that are in the highest good for all involved. 
       
      Then meditate on the essence of what you would like to bring into your life. It may be freedom, empowerment, peace, confidence, certainty, trust or well-being. Whatever it is for you, just know as you focus on bringing more of these qualities into your life, through the Law of Attraction, the Universe supports you in experiencing more of the same and in turn, this will support your children.

If you are interested in learning more about what the research shows about homework and education, Alfie Kohn, author and speaker on human behavior, education, and parenting, has much to offer on the topic. As author of The Homework Myth and many other books on parenting and education, Alfie offers facts and tips on this website

© 2014 Julie Kleinhans, Mind Focus Generation

WANT TO USE THIS ARTICLE IN YOUR NEWSLETTER OR WEB SITE? You can, as long as you include this complete blurb with it:

“Youth Empowerment and Education Expert Julie Kleinhans works with teens and young adults to love themselves, be successful and embrace their own uniqueness. Get her FREE Guide for Parents “5 Steps to Productive, Confident and Happy Kids” at www.MindFocusGeneration.com.”

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