Back to School: 3 Tips to Reduce Stress for You and Your Kids

by Julie Kleinhans on September 3, 2014

Back to School time can be a little crazy. With supplies, books, new outfits and shifting out of the summer schedule into the school schedule, you certainly don’t need any more on your plate, in fact, what you need are ways to reduce the stress for you and your kids.

Try out these 3 Tips to Reduce Stress for You and Your Kids:

  1. Morning stretch and meditation with your kids.
     
    If your children are younger, this is a great habit to establish at a young age.
     
    If your children are older and reluctant to do this with you, encourage them to join a yoga class instead with a friend after school.
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  3. After-school chat.
     
    Talk to your kids about their day at school and do your best to not judge what they say and instead listen from a neutral, loving place. Your children will share all kinds of things when you listen with an open heart and they feel safe to be heard and understood no matter what they say.
     
    This kind of dialogue reduces stress on your kids, giving them the outlet to express the “highs” and “lows” of their day and giving them the opportunity to share things that may be bothering them, where they want your support.
     
    Talking it out is a way to explore our feelings and understand them. Give your child that opportunity to share without interrupting and you’ll find out how smart they are with problem solving (regardless of age) and you’ll be able to be there for them when they could use some true advice from someone that was a kid not too long ago, remember, that’s you!
     
    -And by the way, your children may have great advice for you with your own challenges.
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  5. Support learning not grades.
     
    School was originally designed as a place for learning. Now, the energy has shifted to grades being the objective, instead of learning the material in a holistic way.
     
    Giving more meaning to grades can cause undue stress on your child, which is counterproductive. The most important thing is that your child feels fulfilled and loved for who they are, regardless of their school performance.
     
    The Law of Sufficiency and Abundance reminds us to see ourselves and our loved ones as good enough just as they are, without needing to prove anything to earn love and approval.

Start incorporating these tips one at a time or all at once – write them on a sticky note and keep them with you.

You and your kids deserve a stress-free life, as much as you can make that possible, so that all of your can thrive and truly enjoy this life experience. After all, each of us are here to learn and grow, you are learning along with your kids, so take it easy on yourself and it will enable you to take it easier on them!

Let me know how these tips work for you – post your note on my Facebook page.

© 2014 Julie Kleinhans, Mind Focus Generation

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What’s so Final About Final Exams?

by Julie Kleinhans on June 12, 2014

It’s that time of year… final exams are here! Parents, teachers and students are feeling the pressure of finishing out the school year on a good note. To make matters worse, the Common Core Standards are an additional stress in our lives.

We all want our children and students to do well, but what does that really mean? Is success defined by a test score? Do final grades really determine the future success of an individual? Does it all end there? Or do we allow it to end there because of the meaning we attach to tests and grades?

Has our reliance on test scores for “achievement” taken us further away from what we really want for our kids? I would say yes!

Here are some tips to help put things into perspective so you and your kids can avoid stressful arguments and feel good about the end of the school year:

  1. Don’t attach meaning to the outcome of your child’s tests
    Many parents and teachers project into a child’s future that they will not do well in life or have a happy and successful career if their grades are not average or above average.
     
    From my experience, as a former high school teacher, a student’s well-being is negatively effected when parents and schools make too much of a deal about tests results. When a kid hears, “you have to be successful in school if you want to be successful in life,” they feel inadequate if they aren’t meeting expectations. This results in a poor self-image and a lack of confidence in their own abilities and intelligence. Remember this: A positive self-image is the number one ingredient for a successful life!
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  3. Focus on your child’s mental, physical and emotional health and well-being first
    It’s obvious that today’s academic climate is damaging our kids mental, emotional and even physical health due to stress and anxiety. Rather than expecting positive feelings to come to you and your child based on his/her performance in school, accept wherever you child is at academically.
     
    Remember that when you are coming from a place of non-judgment you are creating the space for them thrive on their own terms, which is what true success and confidence is all about.
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  5. Work with your own energy first before approaching you child/student about his/her studies
    If you are coming from a place of worry, frustration, anger or stress you are creating resistance. Nobody, especially teenagers, feels motivated or inspired to make positive changes when it’s coming from a place negativity.
     
    Before you talk to your child/student about studying and their grades, be sure that you are in a neutral place and release attachment to outcome. From this place, your child/student will be more inclined to be open to suggestions and support rather than fighting back.
     
    And in working with energy, remember the Law of Reflection will always mirror back to you what’s going on within yourself.
     
    By balancing expectations, taking care of what’s most important when it comes to your child or student’s well-being and working with your energy, you will find yourself playing a bigger role in influencing your child or students success!

Inspiring Kids

Have you seen this Tedx video of 13 year-old Logan LaPlante?

I love this kid! He really gets what’s going on and has such a realistic and inspiring message for us all.

Check it out!

Hackschooling makes me happy Hackschooling makes me happy

 

© 2014 Julie Kleinhans, Mind Focus Generation

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