5 Steps to Upgrade Your Life in the New Year

by Julie Kleinhans on December 29, 2014

Most of us have been there before—we are determined and motivated to set New Year’s resolutions and for the first few days or even weeks, it may work out. But sooner or later you give up on your goal and it leaves you believing that you are weak-willed or feeling like a failure. And that’s why the majority of us don’t even bother!

So does this mean that it’s not worth it to upgrade your life in areas that are no longer serving you?

Absolutely not!

Life is always about learning, growing and improving in all areas of life. But I like to approach resolutions in a much different way and that is the reason I have been able to grow and expand by leaps and bounds in my own life over the past several years.

First off, the reasons that New Year’s resolutions don’t work is because they are often goals that we ‘think’ we should be setting and they are not coming from a place of deep inspiration and heart-centered connection with our soul.

Just think about trying to motivate a kid who is not really connected to what you are asking him or her to do!! Uggh, it’s force and struggle because deep down inside that child knows what you are asking them to do is not coming a self-guided place of inspiration. They may do the task, but half-heartedly and begrudgingly.

And the same is true with your inner child!

Also, New Year’s resolutions are usually some type of goal that may be unrealistic or might not be the right time. Our minds may want to do something but if our emotions or subconscious minds are telling us something different, we are out of alignment with what we think we want.

The way I approach any change in my life, at any time of the year, is by focusing on how I want to EXPERIENCE MYSELF. I always like starting off the New Year with a fresh, new perspective on how I would like to experience the New Year. It sets the energy and gets my intentions out into the universe in a strong and deliberate way.

Here are 5 steps to manifesting a New Year that is meaningful to YOU. Even better, you can also teach your kids to do this as a life-long way of BEING!

1. Focus on what you want to experience rather than what you want to gain or achieve. Some examples may be:

  • I want to experience more peace and stillness in my life so I can become more present and mindful of everything in my life.
  • I want to experience more abundance in my life so I can enjoy all the amazing things this world and universe has to offer me.
  • I want to spend more time with my children and make this a priority over anything else.
  • I want to experience more family vacation time.
  • I want to experience more confidence, spiritual growth and love.
  • I want to experience vibrant health and well-being.
  • I want to experience a deeper connection with my spouse, kids, etc.
  • I want to experience more time for self-care.
  • I want to experience myself as a confident, happy and successful being.

2. When focusing on what you want to experience this year, visualize how it will feel and act ‘as if’ you already have it.

3. Look for ways, even if they are small or few and far between, in which you already experience this energy in your life. Focus on how that feels when you allow yourself to experience this in your reality. Amp up this energy right now!

4. Write it down! When you write it down, it is the first appearance of what you want to manifest in your reality. Come back to this commitment you made to yourself for what you want to experience in your life on a regular basis. At a minimum, review your written manifestation every week but it is better to remind yourself daily.

5. Declare, decide and put your stake in the ground! After all, it is your life and nobody gets to create for you but you! It’s true that we all create our own reality, so don’t delay any longer.

Stop creating your life by DEFAULT and DECIDE that you are choosing to experience life on your terms. It may not be perfect, but hey, who said it has to be. Perfection is an illusion anyway!

If you don’t decide deliberately what you want to experience, whatever that may be, then others will decide for you (the government, the media, the schools, your spouse, parents, children, etc.) and that isn’t much fun now, is it? And what better way to empower your children but to be the model of empowerment by choosing how you want to experience your own life!

Happy New Year and many blessings to you!

© 2014 Julie Kleinhans, Mind Focus Generation

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9 Tips to Enrich Your Holiday Season!

by Julie Kleinhans on December 1, 2014

While the holidays are a time of celebration and joy, for many it can bring up a lot of stress and overwhelm.

These days, it seems that the holidays are more about doing than being. Especially if you are a parent! There are holiday parties, school events, shopping, baking, cooking and cleaning, visiting lots of relatives and friends, decorating, bills to pay, kids parties and more. Wow, how do we find the time for it all while still enjoying the true meaning of the holidays?

Many years ago I gave up the belief of stressing and ‘doing’ too much for the holidays and I have to say I LOVE THE HOLIDAYS even more than I did when I was in my early twenties, with not nearly as many responsibilities as I have now!

How did I do this? Simple. I set the intention to do so. I decided. I affirmed. I deliberately create it each and every year. It’s true we all create our own reality so I decided that my reality every holiday season would be about bringing in the spirit, the true spirit, of the holiday season.

Here are 9 Tips to Enrich Your Holiday Season to help you ground in the spirit of the holidays and truly enjoy each moment!

#1 Make it Simple

I decided many years ago that I was going to make it simple…as simple as it could possibly be. To me that means shopping locally (avoiding large department stores, malls and chain stores) and maybe meeting a friend for dinner or coffee while enjoying the festivities in town. I love going into a local town and buying gifts that are unique, thoughtful and eco-friendly, while also contributing to the local economy. I also take advantage of purchasing things online to make it easier.

#2 Saying, “No Thank You”

Another big thing I say is “No Thank You”. There are many parties and gatherings that we may feel obligated to attend. If it feels stressful or overwhelming to me, or if it takes me away from other things I would prefer to be doing, even if that is relaxing by the fire, then I give myself full permission to say, “No thank you.”

What’s the point of doing, doing, doing, if we cannot be fully present and enjoy what we are doing? People understand when you say “no thank you” because they are busy themselves. And if they don’t understand, well, that is their issue that you don’t have to take responsibility for.

#3 Aromatherapy

Surround yourself with uplifting scents to arouse your mood. There are lots of amazing aromatherapy scents for the holiday season that bring up that warm, delicious, joyful and serene holiday feeling. Choose non-toxic, clean essential oils. They keep you healthy and uplift your mood.

#4 Schedule in Family Time

The people we share our home with are the lights of our life. Being together around the table for meals, conversation, family games or quiet relaxation are the moments we realize that we truly have everything we need.

#5 Slow Down

Focus on slowing down. The slower you go, the more you accomplish. As you slow down, you become fully present.

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What I share is that by enjoying your surroundings you raise your vibration, which therefore attracts better experiences to you. Rather than coming from a place of stress and overwhelm, where you will then continue to attract more things to feel stressed and overwhelmed about.

#6 Setting Your Intention Daily

Take time each day, even if it’s just 5-10 minutes, to set the intention and call in the energy of what you would like to experience for the day and/or season. It could be peace, joy, gratitude, appreciation, laughter, romance, etc. This year I choose to have a romantic holiday season. I visualize and feel the romance of sitting quietly by the fire with my loving husband, enjoying the sounds and sights of the winter season.

#7 Make Your Passions Your Priorities

Learn that it’s okay not to do everything. Pick the most important and passionate things and really live those up. Celebrate them and make them the focus on your holiday season.

#8 Gratitude

Give daily gratitude and appreciation for all the blessings in your life. The people you love, the people who love you, the money you do have, the home you do have, the health you do have, the food you do have. There are a million things to be grateful for in this moment!

#9 Giving Back

Give back. Donate, volunteer or simply send special notes of gratitude and appreciation to people or organizations that have made a difference in your life.

© 2014 Julie Kleinhans, Mind Focus Generation

WANT TO USE THIS ARTICLE IN YOUR NEWSLETTER OR WEB SITE? You can, as long as you include this complete blurb with it:

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